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Is My Anger Normal, Or Should I Seek Help?

by | Anger Management, Mental Health Awareness

Life wouldn’t be life without those little irritants that push our buttons. And when our buttons get pushed. it’s completely natural to feel angry. In fact. anger is a normal emotion that can facilitate better communication and positive change when expressed appropriately.

But for some people, managing their own anger is challenging. Usually these people are the last to know they even have what others may describe as “toxic” or “out-of-control” anger. That’s because their loved ones have gotten used to regulating their anger for them by hiding their own feelings. choosing their words carefully. and walking on egg shells. all in an effort to “keep the peace.”

Common Reasons for Intense Anger

If you are uncertain whether or not you may have anger issues. read the following common reasons for intense anger and see if any of them ring true for you.

Anger as a Way to Self-Soothe

Self-medication. as a way to deal with life’s pain. is very common. For those with anger issues. there is a biochemical explanation as to why you may fly off the handle and often.

One of the hormones secreted by the brain during a fit of anger is called norepinephrine, which acts as an analgesic. or pain reliever. When we are triggered. often that trigger digs up deep wounds and past hurts. whether we are aware of it or not.

Becoming angry in the moment releases a powerful brain chemical that numbs our emotional pain so we don’t feel vulnerable. ignored. unimportant. rejected. or worthless. But as with any drug, a person can become addicted to their own anger because they become addicted to the chemical reaction of it.

Self-Empowerment

Another chemical released by the brain during a fit of anger is called epinephrine. While norepinephrine acts like a pain reliver. epinephrine acts like an amphetamine. allowing us to feel a sudden surge of energy throughout our entire body.

This adrenaline rush counteracts our feeling of powerlessness in the moment. or maybe in our life in general. How seductive is that? Many medical experts will tell you that epinephrine is every bit as addictive as alcohol and cocaine. so it’s no wonder so many people are addicted to their own anger.

“Safe” Attachment

Some of us don’t feel safe in a relationship without a safe bit of distance. This is typically a response to a parent or caretaker being unavailable. unresponsive. or untrustworthy in our past. The adult children of these types of parents feel the need to cultivate a certain emotional detachment in their relationships. and anger is a very effective way of doing that.

Tips for Managing Anger

  1. Recognize the problem — As with a substance addiction. it’s important to recognize and admit you may have a problem.
  2. Monitor your behavior— Keep an anger journal and log behavior you noticed or you were accused of by others. Note the incident trigger. and the intensity of your anger from 0-10. Often just seeing your anger on paper will offer some insights into where it’s coming from.
  3. Feel your anger but don’t act on it— Bottling up emotions is never the answer. It’s important for us to feel our feelings. ALL of them. But it’s equally important to regulate our actions. Walk away from potential fights and don’t send that angry email.
  4. Get some help — Speaking with someone about your anger can often help. By uncovering the emotions underneath the anger. you can diffuse it and begin to heal from past traumas.

If you feel you may have an issue with anger and would like to explore therapy. please get in touch. A Psychiatry.Live provider would be more than happy to discuss with you and help you get help.

Living with mental illness isn’t easy, however seeing a psychiatrist and finding the right treatment or medication(s) for you can make it easier. Start talking about what mental health issues you need to confront. You can get well with the right counselor on your side.

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